sharing joy and blahs - Way 12 out of the caregiving wilderness

Life isn't always a bowl

of cherries 

The care of others has joyous moments which we are great at sharing, but the 'blah' moments not so much.  But to be "real"  and to certainly offer a full spectrum of our lives especially with those that love us, blah moments are really important to share.

What are blah moments?  Good question as I can't explain them exactly for you but I can give you mine.  Blah on google definition:

blah

/blä/

INFORMAL

noun

1. 1.

   used to refer to something which is boring or without meaningful content.

   
   

   "the first 20 pages are a lot of blah about budgets and stuff like that"
2. 2.

   NORTH AMERICAN

   depression.

   
   

   "he battled a case of the blahs"

adjective

NORTH AMERICAN

1. 1.

   dull or unexciting.

   
   

   "the game has been very blah"

For our purposes I am speaking about "1"  the boring moments or without meaningful content.

What are my blah moments? Laundry, putting medicine together for my son, making beds, helping him sit on the toilet for hours, putting clothes away, dressing, basically every day chores.  But why share them?  Because if you only share the events that are 'joyous' then people tend to think of caregivers as super human...ridiculous. We have a lot of blah moments- and that's okay. It's hard work being a caregiver and sometimes it's very hard.  So part of your caregiving wilderness success story is to remember to share the blahs, let others know.  This way we acknowledge them, give ourselves "credit" for the remarkable ways we move through each day even though there were a lot of blahs!